Be YOU!

My whole life I have been a people pleaser. I’ve always done what I thought others wanted, looked how I thought I needed to, tried to fit in however I could. Not necessarily as a low self esteem issue, more of a “how to make others happy” tactic.
No, that’s probably a lie. I’m sure if we dug down deep, there would be some personal reasoning for it. Isn’t there always? But really, the main reason is just to make sure everyone else is happy. I’ve always put myself last in an attempt to accomplish these goals.

I’m definitely an emotional person. I’m one who gets personally offended, and could possibly take things the wrong way. Technology has definitely made this worse. Someone can email, text, or comment and say something, and I will take it completely different than how it is meant to come across.
In many of my discussions with the hubby over the 5 years we have been married, he repeatedly uses the phrase “do what makes YOU happy”. It’s funny how when you try to make others happy, your own joy falls by the wayside and you end up being exhausted, stressed, and sometimes even unhappy just because you were trying to please others.
It seems to me that lately so many things are focusing on the topic of “BEING YOU”; from church topics, conversations, books I’ve read, conferences, and other bloggers posts. Maybe it’s just because it’s really been on my mind lately, or maybe because it seems to be the year of making things better. But with all of the “Being You” topics bombarding my life, I have decided to really take it to heart…Full on, head first, diving right in!
This means many personal life changes (you read about my most recent one earlier this week), but it is also going to affect the blog. I’ve decided that this blog is not exactly what I want it to be. I want it to be a communication between me and my readers, a portal to share ideas (hence the “our”, it’s not just me here people!), and a place for all of us to connect on our cheap, thrifty, and inexpensive treasures.
I’ve incorporated these ideas with the fun linky parties that are now making weekly appearances on the blog. And I think this has been a huge benefit and a great way to interact. I’m hoping that everyone is taking advantage and visiting new blogs they find in the party and connect with the incredible men and women behind the scenes!
Another thing I’m going to start doing is a feature that will showcase a fun blog that I have recently discovered or just think you all would wantl to know about. There are amazingly talented people out there, and I want to share with you some of my favorites. These features will not be on a schedule, and will be random in both blog size and topics! I hope that you all will enjoy meeting the fun new bloggers as much as I do!
Another thing that will help this blog grow to what I want it to be needs to come from YOU. Comment, comment, comment! I’m not saying this because I want comments on my blog. I’m saying this because we all have different experiences, concerns, and talents. If we are all commenting to help out others, this blog and it’s readers will benefit so much.
Our Thrifty Ideas has been my baby for a year now and I can only dream of what it will become in the future. Thank you to everyone that reads it and who will continue to stick with it as I become more “ME”!
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Comments

  1. It is probably easier to be altruistic than it is to put yourself first. But your husband is right and you SHOULD do what makes you happy. It’s hard not to care what other people think, but what you think of yourself is all that matters. You are doing wonderful things raising your little kiddos and making contributions to a great marriage. When you are happy it will radiate out and naturally affect those around you (or those ‘following’ you), but rest assured this has already been the case for as long as I’ve been reading. Lovely post, thank you for sharing.

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