Motherhood Matters - Day 3 - Our Thrifty Ideas

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Day 3

Challenge: Practice answering the question “What do you do?” so you can confidently say “I am a mother.”

When I first found out I was pregnant, I could not have been more excited. My whole life I had planned to be a stay at home mom, and be THE BEST at it. I grew up with so many great mom’s to look up to, and knew that I could be just as great as they were.

Once the baby came, all those emotions, feelings, and thoughts changed. All of a sudden I thought “what is my role?” “I’m not doing my part to provide.” “I should be doing so much more.”.

I could not understand how all of those Mom’s did it.

How was their house spotless all the time?

How did their kids have breakfast, lunch, and dinner at 8 am SHARP, noon SHARP, and 5pm SHARP, with a wonderful new dessert each night?

How were there kids and themselves not always covered in food 24/7?

All of these questions ran thru my mind all day everyday. I drove myself crazy trying to do it all. I figured that if my identity was going to be “Mom”, I had to perform up to everyone’s standards.

That was SO much easier said than done.

After countless “what’s on your mind”, “nothing” conversations with my husband, I finally broke down and just told him.

“I’m not a good mom. I should have dinner on the table no matter what time you get home. I should give The Little Man a bath everyday no matter what’s going on. I fed our child nothing but goldfish for lunch, he’s gonna be fat when he’s older. I didn’t get out of my pj’s the entire day, and finally got a shower at 11:30 pm. There’s still piles of laundry that need to be washed. I think I killed our tomato plant.” etc.

After a full on breakdown and hours of sobbing in my own grief, my husband calmly and very politely told me to “shut up” and “you’re doing great”.

Really?

I had no idea that it was ok for all of these things to happen. Even if it is all in one day!

I have slowly become ok with not being a “perfect mom”. I am no longer working a full time job and providing for the family, but I am doing something more important, raising children.

So, I am here to say, I am a Mother!!!

I raise my son for a living. I am not perfect. I have a messy house, and yes, my son ate goldfish and honeydue for lunch. But hey, he ate!!

Want proof?

We are trying to figure out what to sell at our Spring yard sale, so this is what my kitchen table looks like. Between that and bills, there’s NO eatting at this table!